Listen to Your Heart . . . and Your Head
Anyone can get married. The goal, however, should not only be to marry--but to marry the right person.
As a singles pastor, author Dan Chun worked exclusively with more than 5,000 singles, and of the hundreds who were married under his teaching, less than 10 percent got a divorce--far below the national average. This book incorporates Pastor Dan's principles, which provide practical and proven ways to pick a spouse, and is yoiur guide to finding--and keeping--a lifelong partner. You will discover how to test your relationship for key differences using a variety of methods including the Seven Cs: Character, Chemistry, Competency, Cultural Differences, Commitment, Communication and Core Values.
Experts agree: Whether you are dating or planning to date, How to Pick a Spouse will give you clear, usable information for guiding your heart and mind before making one of your most important decisions ... ever.
- How to Pick a Spouse
The first forty minutes of this audiobook sounded like an on-going sales pitch that I didn’t much care to listen to. After that the book started to get better and more informative.
The author covers all of the obvious basics such as looking for character, not having sex outside of marriage, considering cultural differences, and so on. The overarching theme of this book is to take yourself out of what the author calls “the weird zone” (aka having-a-crush type feelings) and step back enough to look at a relationship logically and thoughtfully. Certainly this is an important idea for those looking to marry the “right” person, as crush feelings can blind you from red and yellow flags that this relationship might not be the right relationship for you.
I could be wrong, but my guess is that the sort of person who is going to put enough thought into finding a spouse that they would purchase a book on the matter is going to be the sort of person who has already given a lot of thought to most of the issues brought up in this book. I can’t say there was anything suggested here that I hadn’t already considered when it comes to the prospect of marrying someone. However, it doesn’t hurt to be reminded.
Audio-wise, this book was pleasant to listen to. The voice was not irritating or dull in my opinion, which is a huge plus for an audiobook.
I received a free copy of this audiobook from christianaudio in exchange for my honest review.
- Ignore the Introduction. Good practical advice.
In How to Pick a Spouse Dan Chun does a good job of presenting some very practical advice to singles who are looking to get married. He draws on his long years of experience as a singles pastor to bring some very down to earth advice.
As with any book of advice some of it is better than other parts, but he gives many examples from his pastoral ministry that find a helpful context for his thoughts. He focuses on seven areas that are important to evaluate in another person, and spends a good amount of time on the idea of the value of community in seeking marriage.
The introduction almost caused me to stop reading, but I persevered. The recommendation by the founder of e-harmony.com is a hyperbolic guarantee of what the book will do for your life. The intro isn't worth the time it takes to read. Skip the intro, but the book is worth the time.
The author did a great job with the audio recording--and narrated the rest of the book better than the person reading the intro.
- Helpful Guidance For Courtships
How to Pick a Spouse by Dan Chun is a short but extremely helpful insight into what Christian singles should be looking for in a spouse, pitfalls to avoid as well as helpful advice for those who have had past failures in the form of failed marriages. Drawing on his extensive experience as a successful singles pastor, he presents seven important areas to examine in your future spouse which are the Seven Cs: Character, Chemistry, Competency, Cultural Differences, Commitment, Communication and Core Values.
Added to this is helpful information on the dangers of sex before marriage (a major issue for singles in today's society), the importance of getting Godly wisdom and information from older couples and not rushing into marriage without getting to know the person over the course of a year. There is even a chapter on online dating, which was interesting, as it has always had a stigma attached to it but is very popular today.
Personally I was really pleased to review this book as I am the target audience of the book and would love to find my spouse at some point in the not too distant future. I found the information very helpful and hope to put into practise soon.
The narrator was very good as it was read by the author who knew exactly how he wanted his text to be presented. He also had a clear speaking voice and a steady reading pace, which made listening easy.
This book would be an amazing resource for anyone single looking to find a spouse, anyone divorced looking again or anyone in a relationship leading towards marriage to make sure their partner is right for them. It would also be helpful for parents to read to help out their children.
This audio book was gifted as a part of the christianaudio Reviewers Program in exchange for my unbiased review of this work. More information can be found about this and other Christian audio books at christianaudio.com.