An audio book that talks to guys in the way guys talk!
Having a pulse is all it really takes to fall in love. Staying in love is another matter; staying in love requires a plan and some learned skills.
“My primary audience for this book is guys (sorry, sneaky ladies),” says author Doug Fields. “I am writing in a way that most men seem to talk and learn.”
In 7 Ways to Be Her Hero, Fields gives, quite candidly, seven very doable actions to transform any marital relationship, guaranteed. It also includes a bonus chapter for guys to listen to with their wives. So if you want to understand some simple ways to invest in your marriage and be your wife’s hero (again), this is the plan!
- Inches deep and not very wide
This book was written for an interesting market, and the author is candid about this in his introduction. This book is targeted towards husbands, knowing that the purchaser of the book would most likely be wives. Wives, if your husband is a believer or an unbeliever and is not always your hero - the cover and title are designed to appeal to you and the book is written to appeal to your man and inspire him (often through his groin but ultimately, hopefully, through his heart) to change some behavior to ideally become a better listener, encourager, comforter, and less prideful husband. The advice he gives is practical and it's written in a style that is humorous and appeals to us men.
I found some of the advice helpful and at times was convicted. I also was very disappointed in its shallowness. I couldn't believe that he neglected the importance of prayer and spiritual leadership. They were completely absent. Bible verses were provided only rarely, perhaps for fear of putting off an unsaved husband reader. The advice in this book, while practical, would only ever bolster one's sense that he is the master of the universe and make his wife and himself a god in his heart, rather than convicting him of his sin against not only his wife but his Maker and humbling himself before and relying completely on God and His Word to resolve his issues.
Can reading this book result in good in your marriage? I'm sure there are many men this book will speak to. The advice is sound, does not contradict scripture, and it even exposes some issues that among Christian men really need to be exposed - especially when it comes to the God-given desire for healthy sex in marriage. But will it help restore God to his rightful place as head of your marriage? Not because of anything the author writes, as that discussion is mostly absent from this book.
For me, still wanting to deepen the intimacy in my marriage and desire to be a better husband for my wife, I turned next to "You and Me Forever" by Francis and Lisa Chan and while I haven't yet finished it, that book definitely relies on scripture to direct it rather than support the author's points and its emphasis is absolutely on relying on God rather than oneself to restore and heal.
I would have given this 2 stars but being the first review, I didn't want to give a negative review. Ultimately, I feel it is inches deep and not very wide.