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“A real marriage isn’t perfect. A real marriage is two people being perfected.”
If you feel like the spark is gone, like a critical spirit has invaded your marriage, like you want more intimacy but something is in the way, you could be suffering from the Perfection Infection.
The Perfection Infection happens when we cultivate unrealistic expectations of ourselves and our spouse, gradually leading to intimacy-killing behavior, also known as the “Seven Slow Fades.” That was the case for Jill and Mark Savage, and In No More Perfect Marriages they guide you in everything you need to know to kick the Perfection Infection right out and return to intimacy.
In their warm, honest, personable style, Jill and Mark discuss:
- How the Perfection Infection invades a marriage—even a good marriage
- How to detect and correct the Seven Slow Fades
- How to set and communicate realistic expectations
- What to do if your spouse just won’t change
- How to guard your marriage from the Perfection Infection for good
Hurting marriages can heal, and good marriages can become great. It takes work, yes, but No More Perfect Marriages will give you the insights, language, and roadmap you need for the journey. So start today.
Customer Reviews
- Different and helpful
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I thoroughly enjoyed reading this book and found it was a lot different than most in its content than other marriage books. If you are needing help or struggling in your marriage this is the book you need! I promise!
Overall - Must read for all marriages and contains resources that can improve any marriage from newly weds to seasoned coupl
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This book is a must read for all marriages and contains resources that can improve any marriage from newly weds to seasoned couples! The Personal Operating System Quiz and other quizzes in this book have opened my spouse and my eyes to how God has wired each of us, why we do what we do, and why we have conflict and disagreement in our marriage. This book has helped us see that our way is not the "only right way" and has helped us embrace each others' differences. In "No More Perfect Marriages," Mark and Jill Savage identify masks couples wear without even knowing it and slow fades in marriage that can happen if they go unidentified. They also reveal 8 God tools that can help us navigate our marriages and enrich our lives even during times of disagreement and trials
Overall - A must Read!
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I have Read a lot of Jill’s books she never disappoints and No more perfect marriages is no different! This book has valuable tools to strengthen your communication and understanding of each other. No matter what season you are in in your marriage or soon to be married, you will benefit from reading this book! Together or alone you will reap its benefits!
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- A great read for all married couples
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The title says it all. There are NO perfect marriages. Jill and Mark are open, honest and real about marriage and the struggles we often have through their own personal experiences. They share practical ways to work through the struggles all while encouraging you along the way. It teaches married couples about the masks we have and the way we love. They show the simple tools to help build up a marriage. A great read for married couples.
Overall - I highly recommend this book.
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Jill and Mark Savage have written a real book about real marriage. In No More Perfect Marriages, the authors use their own marriage as a model of both what to do, and what to avoid, in order to have a strong and vibrant marriage. The book begins by explaining the concept of a “slow fade” in marriage, which occurs when spouses each make seemingly insignificant choices - often without realizing it - that may eventually result in a crisis in their marriage. For the remainder of the book, the authors share more about seven specific slow fades. They employ the image of a tool box filled with specific God-tools that can be used to fight against these seven slow fades.
One of my favorite aspects of No More Perfect Marriages is that Jill and Mark wrote this book together. Both of their voices are clearly heard, and this adds to the authenticity of the book. The reader is able to get both Jill and Mark’s perspectives on each issue, making the book and its message even more valuable and relevant.
I strongly recommend this book to any married couple, as well as to couples who have been married for many years. The tools in this book will be helpful to anyone who wants a stronger, healthier marriage. Furthermore, I suggest that both engaged and newly-married couples read this book - having this book to read early in my own marriage would have been extremely helpful to my husband and I during those early years. I highly recommend this book.
Overall - Must read book before/during the marriage
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Married and non-married, women and men will benefit of reading this book. For married, it helps to build connection as couple when each person understand himself through some tests and challenge included in the book. Non- married will be informed and can anticipate the imperfections in the marriage. Women will be encouraged by Jill and equipped by knowing and working for godly characters such as to be humble, to be courageous and to accept the difference between male and female. Men will be empowered by Mark with his point of view and get more responsible of his act. I love reading Mark's confession about not accepting Jill for who is she in chapter 3, and I try to fill the blank in the chart with the guidance. So helpful. Thank you Jill and Mark. I am satisfied of the content of this authentic book.
Overall - Great resource for marriage
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Couples need to hear that even in the midst of hardest seasons of marriage, fresh starts are possible. No More Perfect Marriages identifies the triggers and teaches strategies to refine or restore marriages. A must have for couples! Avoid the pitfalls and climb out of current potholes with this great book. It will be your go-to resource for marriage.
Overall - THIS AMAZING MARRIAGE BOOK SHOULD BE ON EVERY BOOK SHELF!
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This amazing marriage book should be on every shelf of those who are thinking of marrying, those who are in pre-marital counseling and those who are celebrating many years in their marriage.
Honest. Transparent. Biblical. Encouraging. There are too many books written on marriage today that leave the reader seeing and knowing what is wrong with their marriages, but not really given any tools to know how to make any real changes. I believe this book is one of the most encouraging, real books there is on marriage today. I love the way Mark & Jill wrote this book in a ‘he-said, she-said format’ sharing their own thoughts and experiences. They share sound and biblical advice and walk through their journey in hind-sight 20/20 fashion. You will find yourself feeling confident that the same God who healed their marriage is in the business of healing and strengthening yours!
Overall - Great book for any marriage
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Mark and Jill have written a great book, full of good practices to help make any marriage better. They have a conversation style to their book, which is nice to read.
What I love the most is the emphasis that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage, but there are LOTS of ways to have a great one. And no marriage is beyond hope. No matter where you might find yourself in marriage, if you're willing to make changes for the better, your marriage will make changes for the better.Overall - Great resource for married couples
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I’m convinced there are no perfect marriages, but I think what makes this book unique is the way the authors have told their story and shared their struggles in marriage. Mark and Jill Savage provide practical advice based on their research and their own experiences over the years. This book should be required reading for any married couple. It’s helped my wife and me see where we are different and it’s given us a new perspective on how we can help each other.
Overall - Real and Honest
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This is a great book for any married person. Jill and Mark Savage guide you on how to better understand, and grow closer to your spouse, and see what makes each other tick. It is the most straight forward, easy to follow marriage book that I have read. And it is so real and honest. It doesn't read like a lecture, it reads like you are having a real honest conversation with friends. It is written by a couple who has been through a lot in their marriage, but has come out on the other side, stronger than ever. I think many of us tend to have unrealistic expectations of perfection in marriage, but this book helps you to realize your spouse is not wrong, just different. Whether your marriage is hurting or you just want to make it stronger, this book is a great resource that is easy to read and easy to put in to practice.
Overall - Practical marriage advice
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I love Jill Savage and all she does through her books and Hearts at Home organization to encourage and support women! I was thrilled at the opportunity to preview this book in her launch group. This book, written with her husband Mark, exposes the reasons why marriages struggle. They are refreshingly honest about their own relationship and are dedicated to helping others improve, save, and restore their marriages. This is a perfect book for marriages in any stage.
Overall - Love this book
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No More Perfect Marriages is a great book!! Jill and her husband Mark knocked it out of the park with this one. My husband and I are learning a lot about one another, most we knew but now have tools in our pocket to work with each other instead of ignoring the issues! Thank you Mark and Jill!!
Overall - Insightful, raw book for all relationships
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Wow! Very insightful book. I learned so much about myself with the quizzes the book offers. Each chapter is packed with information. It left me thinking for days after to determine how I could change or how I could use the information. I have read many books about marriage and feel I learned a lot about marriage and myself. It isn't a feel good book that left you feeling like love is a fairy tale. It was raw and real. I recommend this book to everyone who has a relationship they want to cherish.
Overall - This is a great book for all marriages
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Thank you Jill Savage, you have done it again. I have read all of her no more ... books and this one did not disappoint. I love the way Jill and Mark wrote this together both sharing very personal stories about there marriage. I was able to take away a lot of ideas to help make our marriage the best it can be and a lot of tips and help when it falls into a dark place.
Overall - a MUST read for EVERY marriage season!
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If only EVERY married or soon to be married couple had this book! Whether soon to be married, contemplating divorce, a few years married or married for decades, it provides invaluable tools to strengthen your communication and understanding of each other. Mark and Jill write in such a way that you are drawn in by their honesty, transparency and real life viewpoint. Their story of redemption gives hope to so many others that are struggling and is a great encouragement to reconnect with your spouse. It's packed FULL of practical tools to transform every marriage. Written by a REAL couple in the real trenches of doing life together, not just a clinical perspective. Whether you read with your spouse or by yourself, it has the potential to change the dynamics of your relationship. Just in the couple of weeks since reading it, our understanding of each other's unique qualities and our ability to communicate deeply has grown exponentially.
Overall - This book is "perfect"
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Mark and Jill are so real and transparent! Sometimes it felt like they were a fly on the wall in my own life, like looking in a mirror! It's such an easy read!
Overall - Great Book
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Amazing book. It really opens your eyes to where your views cone from and your husbands views. It helps bring you closer together
Overall - The marriage handbook you will read then want to re-read!
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A rare find in today's world; honest heartfelt story of a marriage turned intensely close to devastation and divorce but by using God given tools Mark and Jill Savage found themselves and what real marriage is. The glimpse into different phases of their life and using God's toolbox will help me remember how to use them in my own life and marriage. So relatable. Captivating. You'll want to read and re-read portions to help your relationship with your spouse and others.
Overall - BUy This Book!
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Buy this book! it is amazing. full of great insight and wisdom. The Savage's are so honest and real. Every marriage will benefit from this one. It is a keeper
Overall - Hope for your marriage
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This is an honest look at marriage fades - how we all drift apart in many ways. Mark and Jill address common marriage difficulties, and provide tools to bring your marriage back into focus. My favorite part is all the different personality types that you find out about yourself and your spouse, and how to get to know them and yourself better. The Savages are living proof that there can be reconciliation after an affair, and you can be stronger than ever. THERE IS HOPE!
Overall - My hubbie likes it too!
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We've been married 40+ years and my husband hasn't ever read a marriage book with me or been interested, but the 1st chapter drew him in to this marriage book and he loves it! Often one spouse or the other is the one to pursue reading marriage books, so I see it as really special when a book draws both spouses to read and share it!!
Overall - EXCELLENT
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Ok, so there are books, and then THERE ARE BOOKS. As a woman who ministers to other women I’ve read so many books on marriage/relationships that I’ve used to encourage others...but then I read one that seem to speak directly to me and my own marriage. Mark and Jill Savage capture with true authenticity the struggles that all married couples encounter. The struggles that WE personally have encountered. Like feeling minimized. Or ruled over. Or dismissed. They encourage building healthy “hedges” to protect your relationship. I believe that the tangible resources and advice they offer, if applied, have the ability to transform your marriage. I’m incredibly grateful for the timeliness of this book, its authors, and of its message. It’s a must read. Jayne Patton
Overall - Must read
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I personally love any and all books by Jill Savage so it's no surprise I love this book too! Mark and Jill get really honest in this book about their marriage and struggles they have faced. it's easy to look at your marriage and blame your spouse but you must look at your contribution first. this book is an easy read and they provide practical and biblical advice that is really applicable to any relationship you have. They provide different assessments that you can take that help you learn more about you and understand why you do what you do. this book for me has been God sent.
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