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The Emotionally Destructive Marriage

Product Review (submitted on July 20, 2014):
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick is a book devoted to help women in particular deal with marriages that have become destructive. It contains a wealth of advice for women to identify damaging behaviour, how to respond to criticism wisely and options to leave if the situation is not improving or even getting worse.

It documents many cases with varying degrees of emotional and verbal abuse and possible solutions as well as pitfalls that make the situation worse rather than better. There are additional resources that can be accessed through the website to assist people as much as possible. That is one of the best aspects of this book, that the author has a great desire to ensure that these sort of troubled marriages are greatly improved and become the marriage relationship intended by the Bible.

Personally, being a man, I found parts of this book very disturbing that men could be so cruel to people that confess to love and should be looking after not making their life harder. This is a book that I will hopefully never need but as the world is getting darker there are bound to be women coming into the church in these situations that will need help, which is when this book will be a great resource.

The narrator was the author herself, which I think was important for such a troubling issue as marriage abuse because she could convey her message with the love, courage and emotion that was needed for such a sensitive topic. I thought she was quite easy to understand and the speed of the reading wasn't too fast for me to follow.

This book is a must for women who are in destructive marriages where their husband is verbally, physically or emotionally abusive towards them. It would also be good for people trying to help these women, so they can give them good advice.

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