Parenting isn't rocket science, it's just brain surgery.
And Dr. Joshua Straub has good news for you: You can do it!
You don’t need to do all the “right” things as a parent. Both science and the Bible show us that the most important thing we can provide for our kids is a place of emotional safety. In other words, the posturefrom which we parent matters infinitely more than the techniques of parenting.
Emotional safety—more than any other factor—is scientifically linked to raising kids who live, love, and lead well. Learn how to use emotional safety as a foundation from which you parent—and make a cultural impact that could change the world!
In Safe House, Dr. Straub draws from his extensive research and personal experience to help you:
- Foster healthy identity and social development in children of any age
- Win the war without getting overwhelmed in the daily battles
- Discipline in a way that builds relationship
- Understand how the culture is affecting your child and what you can do about it
- Cultivate responsible, self-regulating behavior in your kids
- Establish an unshakeable sense of faith, morality, and values in your home
- Feel more confident and peaceful as a parent
- Find a greater perspective on parenting than what you might see on a daily basis
- Great to Read and Reflect
Safe House was a very meaty audiobook to hear and digest. I listened in lengthy chunks, then set it aside to reflect on the material Straub presented. Each chapter does include questions to reflect upon. It’s an excellent book to read in a book club, with a spouse, or other parents/safe house members.
Straub outlines his book well. He begins with the parent(s) and their own story (history). He gives the space to reflect on the past and see how it can be a part of their future or their children’s futures. He goes onto explain the characteristics of a safe house: explore, protect, grace, and truth. The house analogy was easy to picture in my mind and I think other listeners can connect well with the analogy as well. He finishes his book with reflective materials on faith and marriage.
Yes, this is a parenting book, but Straub went beyond new or young parents. He includes seasoned parents and to be parents. He includes single parents and parent supporters (grandparents, friends, family members). In addition, he talks about marriage and the partnership or team that marriage creates. A husband and wife team needs to be together in their parenting and in support of each other.
Mike Chamberlain narrated Joshua Straub’s book. Chamberlain has a straightforward and friendly voice, well suited for this non-fiction book. He was expressive throughout each chapter and never over the top. This is the second time I’ve heard Chamberlain narrate a book and I would listen to him again.
I received this audiobook for free from christianaudio for this review.
- Emotional Safety at home, the key to successful parenting
Joshua Straub has outlined the process of parenting extremely well. His balance of discipline, natural consequences, room to explore and most importantly, emotional safety in the home is right on. We have parented four children, eight troubled youth and contributed in large measure to seven grandchildren and have worked to accomplish the same goals as outlined in this book.
My personal catch phrase is that "It is our job as parents to bring an infant who is 100 percent dependent on us parents to a young adult who is as close to 100 percent independent and able to make correct decisions for themselves by the time they leave our house."
This is the first book that I have read that aligns so closely with my parenting philosophy.
The two things that Joshua points out that I believe but now have a clearer understanding are that discipline is not the same as punishment. The second is what I have believed but not been able to put into words and that is emotional safety that is the key to maintaining a relationship with our children which will foster the above move toward independence.
I was given a free audio version of this book for my agreement to review it but this has not influenced my personal impressions of the book.
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