"In an age when sex is worshiped as a god, a little book like this can go a long way to helping men overcome sexual addiction."
- Pastor Mark Driscoll, Mars Hill Church
It isn't easy being a guy today. Maybe it never has been easy, but today the challenges to guys who want to be holy, who want to honor God with their minds and bodies, seem tougher than ever. You live at a time and in a culture that seems given over to sex.
It is all around you and you can hardly avoid its lure. Everywhere you go today you are faced with temptations and, if you are like most young men, have begun to give in to them. Perhaps you have only just begun looking at pornography or perhaps you've been doing so for many years. Perhaps you are struggling with masturbation, not really wanting to indulge yourself but finding that it's a whole lot tougher to quit than you would have thought. Perhaps you are finding that, more than ever, sex is filling your mind and impacting your heart.
This booklet is intended specifically for young men-those who are not yet married but who hope to be married in the future. Maybe you are still single or maybe you have found the woman of your dreams and are close to settling down and building a life with her. Maybe she still seems a long way off. No matter your situation, I want to use this short guide to help you discover God's plan for sex and sexuality.
I want to help you track down the lies you have believed about sex and I want to help you replace them with truth that comes straight from God, the one who created sex for us.
"Online pornography is not just a problem for Christian men; it is THE problem. Many men, young and old, in our churches need Sexual Detox. Challies offers practical, doable and, above all, gospel-centered hope for men. I want every man I serve and all the guys on our staff to read this book."
-Tedd Tripp, Pastor, and author of Shepherding a Child's Heart<
"Tim Challies strikes just the right balance in this necessary work. His assessment of the sexual epidemic in our culture is sober but not without hope. His advice is practical but avoids a checklist mentality. His discussion of sexual sin is frank without being inappropriate. This book will be a valuable resource."
-Kevin DeYoung, Pastor and author
- Excellent Resource
I found the audio book to be well done and extremely conversational in tone which is tough to do when discussing something as taboo as pornography and sexual immorality. The one concern I had was the speed in which Tim read the questions at the end of each chapter. I would have liked a bit more of a pause to be able to reflect somewhat on the questions being asked. Regardless, I found the audio book to be well done and enjoyable to listen to–especially while driving or jogging.
If you are going to purchase one book on sexual immorality to give to a young man, I would recommend giving them Sexual Detox. It is short and will keep the reader’s attention. The message is biblically saturated while offering keen insight into the way in which we are to combat the sexual immorality, specifically, pornography, today. I pray more men will read this book and get serious about killing the snake that is pornography.
- Good Book - Highly recommend
I finished listening to Christian Audio's release of Sexual Detox by Tim Challies a couple of weeks ago, so I would like to take a moment to recommend this book to everyone that comes by.
The subtitle to the book is "A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn". So one might think that this book will only be beneficial to someone who is or has struggled with porn, but I want to recommend it, not just to those guys, but like I said, to everyone who comes by this review. I really believe that this book would also be beneficial to the wives, friends, parents, pastors, etc. of those who have struggled. I say this for two reasons: One, this book offers a very accurate view of one who is struggling with porn and everything else that might go along with it. Two, the "detox" part is also a detoxification of all of the sexual philosophies that are taught in the media today, the scope of which includes much more than porn.
In the book Tim Challies does an excellent job of reorienting the reader to a Biblical view of sex. God created sex. It was His idea! He has also given restrictions and guidelines, but these are for our good and ultimately for our highest enjoyment of sex! (I never thought I would type that phrase in a book review...)
This book was read by the author, which I always feel adds an extra element to the reading of the book. I love audio books, mostly because it gives me something valuable and useful to do during my morning commute, but I really love it when the author read the book. It makes it feel more like someone is sitting there with you, sharing something that God has laid on their heart.
- Excellent content, unfortunate narration
In Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who are Sick of Porn, author and blogger Tim Challies addresses young, single men in an effort to help them discover God’s plan for sex and sexuality. He is writing to those who have grown up in a sex-saturated culture where pornography is far more accessible than it was as recently as when the 33-year-old author was growing up. Temptation is all around us and most of us have, he says, begun to give in.
Challies begins by discussing the problems that pornography causes in marriages, arguing that detoxification is necessary in order for a man to be the loving husband that God has called him to be. He then discusses the topic of breaking free from sexual sin, specifically pornography and masturbation, and addresses the most common myth about breaking free. Next, he delves into the “theology of sex” and how “self-centered sex” fails this theology. Finally, he digs into what detoxification involves and what freedom means. Each chapter ends with questions aimed at getting the reader/listener thinking about how the chapter applies in his own life.
I was impressed by this book. The author avoids being crude, a practice that is common in books on this topic, while being perfectly frank. Often books on the topic of lust are too explicit, painting pictures in a guy’s mind that do more harm than good, but he does an excellent job staying away from such talk. He also avoids giving lists of dos and don’ts, focusing more on the heart than on specific acts, which is good. Another refreshing aspect of the book is the focus on the theology of sex and how pornography and masturbation are in direct opposition to God’s plan for sex and sexuality. This ensures a proper biblical approach to breaking free.
I think that this is an excellent book for pastors to keep on hand and would recommend it to any man who is struggling in this area. It is easy to read, clear and concise, and covers both why detox is necessary and how to accomplish it.
Since I listened to the audiobook, a comment or two about the audio quality is in order. I found the recording quality to be excellent, but the narration left a lot to be desired. The book was read by the author, which I often like, but in this case I found disappointing. Challies could probably have delivered a moving talk on the topic had he not been tasked with reading the exact verbiage of the printed book, but because he was, the delivery was stiff and lacking emotion and sincerity. Narrating an audiobook must be extremely difficult and I applaud him for doing it, but the audiobook would have been greatly improved had a professional reader been hired.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this audiobook free from the christianaudio Reviewers Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.
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- The title says it all, "Sexual Detox." And the subtitle gets right to the point, "A Guide for Guys Who are Sick of Porn."
The title says it all, "Sexual Detox." And the subtitle gets right to the point, "A Guide for Guys Who are Sick of Porn."
This is a short book that simply lays out the problem of pornography and pastoral advice on how to abstain from, kill it, and detox from it.
This is especially helpful in our day and age where sex is simply EVERYWHERE!
It is by famous Christian blogger Tim Challies (who is also an elder at his church, so don't think it is just another blogger's rant, no, rather it is a book written with pastoral care concerned with the souls of his sheep). It is there I had originally read pieces from wince this book came from and I am so glad they put this into book form.
I would recommend this to anyone who is currently hooked on porn or not. If you have ever seen porn in your lifetime then this book is for you.
As far as the audiobook goes, the book is read by the author himself. He is rather dry and not very exciting to listen to but the content of the book itselfs makes up for the dull audio.
I heartily commend this book to you.
- Excellent Gospel-Centered and Redemptive Detox of Sexual Sin... Wow...
Thank you ChristianAudio.com for the opportunity to review this book and to hear the author read his own work. Being a reviewer for you is such a blessing!
Every year I make a commitment to read/listen to a teaching on this topic. Why? Because I need it and 99.9% of the guys I fellowship, disciple, and are around need it. This was a great opportunity to listen to this audio and I am grateful for my own sanctification for this taking my soul to task audiobook. This short one hour and forty minutes is worth every moment. I listened to it 3x!!! I agree with the author, like our bodies detox from disease or an addict detoxes from an addition so do men need to detox our minds about sexuality.
The foreword is EXCELLENT and sets the tone right off the bat with,
The purpose of this book is not to get you to admit that sexual sin is wrong—you already know that. Instead, the purpose is to move you to believe biblical truth about sexuality and have these beliefs determine your decisions.
When you indulge in sexual sin, it reveals what you truly believe about sexuality. You believe that the pleasure of sin is better than the pleasure of obeying God by enjoying sex the way God created it to be enjoyed. You believe that the pleasure you derive from your sin is greater than the consequences your sin will have on you and those around you. You believe that your momentary pleasure is greater than the rewards the Lord has for you—both in this life and in the life to come.
This immediately told me that this was going to be in your face, biblical, and redemptive, no mincing with words and getting to the heart of the matter. Amen
Chapter 1 – Reality
Tim goes on to explain history, growing up and how porn was not as readily accessible as it is today and then he comes out with a sobering statement,
One helpful way to think about pornography is to see it as inherently mocking, violent, and progressive. Pornography is inherently violent, inherently unloving. It is a perversion of sexuality, not a true form of it, and one that teaches violence and degradation at the expense of mutual pleasure and intimacy. It is about conquests, about conquering. It is the very opposite of God’s intention for sex. It tears love from sex, leaving sex as the immediate gratification of one’s most base desires. It lives beyond rules and ethics and morality.
This was a powerful statement to include in the chapter on marriage and to remind us what we are taking into our marriages. I remember when my wife caught me looking at porn in the first years of our marriage, the look on her face, and the reality that I had brought something violent into our relationship. Thirteen years later, I am stunned with the evidence of God’s grace with a great wife who put up with ‘violence’ and sin and loved me anyway. I am also thankful that both God and her forgave me (1 John 1:8-10 (ESV))
Chapter 2 – Pornography vs. Your Marriage
Tim does a great job here addressing the classic denial and objection I have made and also heard many other men make: “Marriage will make it go away.” There is a whole paragraph here also that I wanted to transcribe, but it better to hear Tim tell it. Long story short… my reply and summary… How’s that working for you…? It doesn’t, not if your not willing to take your heart to task on the matter.
Chapter 3 – A Theology of Masturbation
Tim addresses two prominent Christian authors and their humanistic views and also the ‘its normal’ answer. I like Tim’s answer (and many more – listen to the chapter);
It’s true that Scripture never mentions masturbation specifically. However, because the Bible does speak thoroughly and explicitly about sexuality and sinful lust, it doesn’t have to speak explicitly about something so closely related as masturbation.
Chapter 4 – Three Gifts of Sex and Chapter 5 – Detox in the Bedroom are EXCELLENT chapters that redeem and detox the defilement many of us have about sex.
Chapter 6 – Detox in Your Soul is an excellent ending to this short work. “God’s Eyes” and “Your Own Secret Weapon” are truly fantastic and amazing conclusions to this treatise. Tim is right on the money in the “weapon'” section in which he talks frankly about accountability groups and ‘purity and your future.’
I would also add that the THINK sections at the end of every chapter are quite helpful in brining gospel-centered application through questions. Like Jesus did, rabbinic questioning can be convicting, confessional, repentant and redemptive, and Tim’s THINK questions are an excellent addition to these chapters.
Overall, this is a FANTASTIC audio book and I highly recommend it to EVERY man, because if your not tempted, you know someone who is…
Resources AFTER the ones mentioned in the audio (specifically the one about talking to your pastor or a mature/strong man in Christ);
National Association of Nouthetic Counselors
Setting Captives Free
Christian Counselor Education Foundation: GET THIS BOOKLET Pornography: Slaying the Dragon and ONLINE: Its All About Me: The Problem of Masturbation
Sex is NOT the problem, Lust is by Joshua Harris
Pure Life Ministries – At the Altar of Sexual Idolatry is an EXCELLENT book/study
Link to Better formated review: http://oasisgc.wordpress.com/2010/11/17/sexual-detox-a-guide-for-guys-who-are-sick-of-porn/
- Brief, Yet Helpful
In his book, Sexual Detox, Tim challies offers simple, biblical counsel for men who are struggling with the tragic impact of pornography on their sexuality. Challies understands the prevalence and the destructiveness of pornography, and he speaks in his book to the hearts of men who need God’s help to again view sex rightly.
Challies writes in a way that is open and frank without crossing the line into being crude. Often, in a book on this topic, the author, in order to prove he is a real guy with real guy struggles, will share too much with his readers in too descriptive a way. Challies does not fall into this pattern. This is good, as Challies performs the rare feat of talking about issues of lust without stirring up dangerous images in his readers’ minds.
Challies plan of organization in this work is also effective. Before he gets into the nuts and bolts of what men need to do, he spends two chapters helping guys to develop a biblical theology of their sexuality. This is good, as men need to first understand what God has taught on this issue before they can make lasting changes that honor God.
This book is also an extremely easy read. A pastor could give Sexual Detox to a young man who is struggling and not fear that the terminology will be too much. This book could possibly even be used with youth so long as the youth minister or a parent worked with the young men to get through some of the issues in the text.
A slight negative that I have regarding this book is that, because of its readily accessible writing style, arguments are not always as thoroughly made as I might prefer. On occasion, Challies will tell us that “This is the reason that…”and I might feel that more reasoning should be given.
Challies also writes much about how men need to rely on others in their local church to help them with their struggle. This is absolutely right advice. However, Challies does not have as much to say to help those men whose local churches may not be ready to help them due to unbiblical leadership, lack of counseling, lack of church discipline, etc.
If you want to read the absolute best book on Christians and dealing with lust, I would recommend Josh Harris’ Sex Isn’t the Problem, Lust Is. However, if you want a very good book that is shorter and a bit more modern, I would certainly highly recommend Challies’ Sexual Detox. This really is good material to help men recognize the destructiveness of pornography and how they can begin to get away from it.
I listened to this book for free as a part of ChristianAudio.com’s reviewers program. Christian Audio always puts out great-sounding recordings. This book is read by its author. I personally seldom like recordings read by the author. There just seems to be something a little awkward in the delivery. It is as if the author wants to emphasize his thoughts, but is too bound by the text he has to read word-for-word. With that said, Challies’ Canadian accent is fun to listen to. And, if you have a player that will allow you to speed up the rate of the files, you might find this feature helpful to utilize.
- Good and much needed
We live in an over-sexed pornified world. With the rise of the internet and youtube-like sites, Westerners continue to do all that they can to have their 15 minutes of fame. Shock seems to be the quickest way to stardom. Now it seems every celebrity has their own sex tape and their careers themselves are driven by their physique and sexuality. As a result, most today are addited to pornography and sex.
Christians have been, unfortunately, a little behind on this issue. We say, "don't have sex before or outside of marriage," but have no deep theology of sex and sexuality. We know what we reject, but articulate little on what we affirm. Sex is good and the Bible affirms this. Marriage itself is a picture of the gospel. It is imperative that the Church return to the gospel and the biblical receord and articulate a more thorough worldview here.
But how do we minister to those struggling with porn addition and lust? That's the question that author, blogger, and web designer Tim Challies offers in his book Sexual Detox: A Guide for Guys Who Are Sick of Porn. Challies' book is brief and purposely so, but writes with a depth that is needed with such a subject. He offers a biblical theology of sex and shows how pornography falls well short of what God wants.
What I loved about this book was Challies' willingness to deal with issues that most Christians act as if don't exist. Not only does Challies deal with pornography, but he also deals with issues like masturbation - a subject Christians have recently debated. Challies does not apologize for his honesty. Regardless of what one thinks on the subject, it is important that Christians deal with it. Every youth pastor in America has had too and it is time we think about such issues more seriously. At the end of the day, however, Challies is right: marriage does not solve either problem of pornography and lust or masturbation.
I received a digital audio copy of this book for free through christianaudio.com. The quality was the recording is what I expected: good and acceptable. Though I will admit that the quality was not as good as others I have listened to at the site, it was good nonetheless. I always like to hear the author's voice when listening to books and Challies does that on this book.
Overall, this is a must read (or listen) for all Christians including men, teenagers, pastors, and ministers. It is time we get serious about these issues and Challies certainly is leading us in the right direction.
- Dull audio book, perhaps better paperback?
Sexual Detox, by Tim Challies, is narrated by the author himself in the audio book format. The concept of a book so bluntly addressed about pornography seems like an excellent ministry opportunity. Tim shares much of his personal experiences in the beginning of the text, providing an excellent opportunity to judge his narrative capability.
It is always a plus to listen to an audiobook narrated by the author, regardless of their talent. I don't think I'm much of a fan of Challies' narration capability, but I am sure that he does great in natural conversation. It seems that he focused slightly too much on reading the text, rather than narrating it. There should be inflection, authorial interpretation, and a thrill. Unfortunately, it felt drained and forced. Perhaps Challies preferred this method, and determined that such would be best. However, it doesn't work as well for listening enjoyment.
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