Bestselling author Larry Crabb cuts to the heart of the biblical view of marriage: the "one-flesh" relationship. He argues convincingly that the deepest needs of human personality—security and significance—ultimately cannot be satisfied by a marriage partner. We need to turn to the Lord, rather than our spouse, to satisfy our needs. This frees both partners for "soul oneness," a commitment to minister to our spouse's needs rather than manipulating them to meet our own needs. With "soul oneness" comes renewed "body oneness," where couples enjoy sexual pleasure as an expression and outgrowth of a personal relationship.
The Marriage Builder also identifies three building blocks essential to constructing marriage: the grace of God, true marriage commitment, and acceptance of one's mate. Discussion questions are included to aid couples who want to dig into it and apply the principles to their own lives and marriages. The Marriage Builder is for anyone who longs to transform marriage from trial to triumph.
- Tools for transformation
This is not a step-by-step how-to for the do-it-yourselfer. This book is about learning to know God in such a way that I grow in ability to truly love in a mature way. It's about self-sacrifice motivated by the "high calling of God in Christ Jesus" and empowered by the eternal life that comes from true knowledge of God.
I've previously read several other books by Dr. Crabb. I found that this book pulled together many vital concepts described more fully in his other books. I thought it was an excellent distillation of lots of information which, when prayerfully internalized, is of tremendous help in cultivating the heart for the work of God's Spirit in transformation and sanctification. While the book addresses marriage specifically, many of the basic concepts are are broadly applicable to many human relationships.
I thought Mr. Hill's narration suited the book perfectly; his expression and phrasing was engaging and a good match with how I image Dr. Crabb himself would express it.